“It’s not like on tv.”
As I browse through the family forums on the Project Jason website, I learned about other families struggle dealing with a missing loved one. Our family was still fortunate that somehow, we were able to get national media awareness during the first week that he has been missing which results in getting leads from the public. The law enforcement organizations were able to use helicopters with infrared equipment, canine units, and physical search for twelve days. Most families don’t even get any media attention, no searches and no investigation. I’m learning that it takes a lot of time and manpower to conduct a proper investigation and search. The LE’s (Law Enforcement) don’t solve a case in an hour or two.
And that’s the reality of it all.
I did have twelve days and I should be really thankful, right?
The reality is that there are too many missing people and not enough LE to do the type of investigation that is needed in some of the cases. The reality is that most of the time, the LE err to the side of willful missing/will be home safe soon. The reality is we really don’t know what happened to Steve in spite of any evidences the LE gathered. Or no evidence of foulplay. This made me think about David Van Norman’s article, Everything You Need To Know When Your Loved One Goes Missing:
“The family will encounter some typical law enforcement attitudes:..“There is no evidence that anything bad has happened.” True, but absence of evidence is not evidence of absence!”
Ideally, LE’s would consider all possible theories and not just be driven by a singular theory in a missing person case.
A really nice and smart lady who I just met online told me, “The best we can hope for from my experience, is that we pass these laws. And if LE doesn’t follow them, we have something to use to force the issue.” Her suggestion is to pass legislation in each state that will serve to improve the law enforcement community’s ability to locate and ensure a safe return of missing persons.
You can read more about Campaign of the Missing here.
Thank you for your guidance, Kelly Jolkowski, Mother of Jason Jolkowski who has been missing for 11 years.